Anorexia, are you troubled? - Page 3

hayley1977 · #31 18th Nov 09, 04:11 PM

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Originally Posted by ccanham

It's a pretty difficult one this, where is the line between caring about what you eat and look like and being fixated by it.
My 10 year old daughter is overweight, not to the extent that she cant exercise, but to the extent where lathargy has set in and reduced her activity. It has been difficult for us to get her interested in sports and eating more healthy. We have tried everything and have just started to make headway she now does Taekwondo a couple of times a week and she came running round the track with me last week. Her weight has started to shift a bit and she has loads more energy which is great. One of the reasons why we have forced the issue really is because we didn't want her going to high school next year and being teased for being overweight.
But on the other side of the coin I feel really bad about having to push her, she's only 11 for gods sake and are we making an issue of her weight that may make her over consious or cause an eating disorder. I'm aware we have become a society that is obsessive about peoples weight and from a fitness and health point of view that's not all too bad. But it is and can be extremely damaging and as a parent it's very hard to manage or know what to do for the best.

I do understand where your coming from, it is hard to know what to do for the best but as long as you make her feel good no matter what.
My dad and brother used to tease me about being fat, i was about 14 and i was about 9 half stone but this stayed with me as it would do. What was weird was that noone else see me as fat was only my close family that would tease me.
I went on a diet at 15 and i started getting a reaction and funny enough they had no reason to say i was fat any more, but i went on to get a eating disorder.Just by letting her know that your doing it from a healthy point off view will make her feel confident no matter what .
I think your doing the right thing, just always talk so you all now how you feel and these things do not get shut away. Its constructive and im sure she is enjoying doing things with you to.

bagpuddycat · #32 18th Nov 09, 04:31 PM

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Originally Posted by ccanham

It's a pretty difficult one this, where is the line between caring about what you eat and look like and being fixated by it.
My 10 year old daughter is overweight, not to the extent that she cant exercise, but to the extent where lathargy has set in and reduced her activity. It has been difficult for us to get her interested in sports and eating more healthy. We have tried everything and have just started to make headway she now does Taekwondo a couple of times a week and she came running round the track with me last week. Her weight has started to shift a bit and she has loads more energy which is great. One of the reasons why we have forced the issue really is because we didn't want her going to high school next year and being teased for being overweight.
But on the other side of the coin I feel really bad about having to push her, she's only 11 for gods sake and are we making an issue of her weight that may make her over consious or cause an eating disorder. I'm aware we have become a society that is obsessive about peoples weight and from a fitness and health point of view that's not all too bad. But it is and can be extremely damaging and as a parent it's very hard to manage or know what to do for the best.

Speaking as someone who was a bit fat at the age of 10, and was already highly self-conscious as a result, I think you're probably handling it pretty well. You're certainly doing the right thing in encouraging her to do more exercise.

I think that, as long as you emphasise that the aim is for her (and you all) to be fitter and healthier, then with luck that will be a positive for her, and she won't see it as an attempt to criticise her for being fat. Doing some of that exercise with her, as you are, will I think help reinforce the general aim of fitness and healthiness, and make it less about her and more about you as a family, which can only be good.

Neil Law · #33 18th Nov 09, 04:56 PM

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Originally Posted by Ali Kitten

I think you're taking too much of this onto your own shoulders Neil... there's only so much you can do, she needs to acknowledge there's a problem, want to do something about it and seek help from the appropriate professionals. Stop

things have taken a very positive turnaround... and mostly of her own doing too... we had agentle almost hinting chat... then she went on a night out wearing a dress she hasent worn for a year halfway through the night she saw herself in a mirror.. and the penny dropped.. we chatted on sunday and saw a gp today..

lucky or what?!

patio princess · #34 18th Nov 09, 05:47 PM

that's a great positive development, neil. certainly wish i'd had loving sporty parents as a child. how you wish could go back to your younger self and say it'll all come right in the end.

Neil Law · #35 18th Nov 09, 10:01 PM

tbh I normally say "do this training lose this weight" tell them how, jobs a good un... but stuff like this is a team effort theripist, gp, family..

patio princess · #36 18th Nov 09, 11:31 PM

that's what i like about you, neil. seem the type to never let sentiment intrude unless you know it's really required. whoops. changed the av back again! well this thread is about self image and been thinking about it a lot today and am just fed up with still thinking am fat. this delusion ends tonight so the av stays. am damn proud of what have achieved. no more hiding in the shadows etc.

Ali Kitten · #37 19th Nov 09, 06:57 AM

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Originally Posted by pilatesprincess

that's what i like about you, neil. seem the type to never let sentiment intrude unless you know it's really required. whoops. changed the av back again! well this thread is about self image and been thinking about it a lot today and am just fed up with still thinking am fat. this delusion ends tonight so the av stays. am damn proud of what have achieved. no more hiding in the shadows etc.

So you should be PP- you look rather fab in your avatar pic!

patio princess · #38 19th Nov 09, 07:59 AM

thanks ali kitten. a friends husband says I can take compliments better than i used to which must be good news!

Neil Law · #39 19th Nov 09, 10:56 AM

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Originally Posted by pilatesprincess

that's what i like about you, neil. seem the type to never let sentiment intrude unless you know it's really required. whoops. changed the av back again! well this thread is about self image and been thinking about it a lot today and am just fed up with still thinking am fat. this delusion ends tonight so the av stays. am damn proud of what have achieved. no more hiding in the shadows etc.

hubba

patio princess · #40 19th Nov 09, 04:29 PM

(sighs) nothing like some well chosen smileys and a post run endorphin rush to make a gal feel satisfied... ahem.

Neil Law · #41 19th Nov 09, 04:35 PM

I do love to please a girl